On Thursday we received some bad news from our agency. I’m not going to share the details here, because while I certainly share a great deal about our adoption with family, friends, and others going through the adoption process in this very public forum, I do want to maintain some privacy for our daughter. The news in sum, though, was that our agency has determined that the required birth family interview at the Embassy is not possible in our case at this point in time.
That’s a major problem. MAJOR. It’s actually one that our agency has never had to address before. We are in a bit of uncharted territory, and boy, it does not feel good to be dealing with so much that is unknown at this late stage of this long and arduous process.
Our agency has submitted a request to the Embassy explaining the situation and asking for the Embassy to use alternate ways to complete their investigation. (This has apparently been done in limited circumstances for families with other agencies.) We have not yet received a response, but our agency has started to gather some documentation that they expect the Embassy to request. I would like to note that Craig and I feel that our agency is doing everything they can for us, and we are again grateful to be working with such a respected agency. We have every confidence that they will help us resolve this situation, but we also know that the decisions are not theirs to make. Also, I would like to add that our case manager (who is also the program manager) is fantastic. She is forthcoming and honest and she is also tremendously empathetic. We now have a standing weekly phone call scheduled with her but we also know that she will provide us with any other information as soon as she gets it.
So, in the best case scenario, the Embassy will be willing to complete their investigation in some way that does not involve a birth family interview. They will request information, our agency will gather and provide that information, the Embassy will review it, and they will issue our clearance. This could happen within the next few weeks. The worst case scenario is that the Embassy will decide that they cannot clearly approve our case and they will send our case to the USCIS office in Nairobi, Kenya. The Nairobi process takes months and months, so of course we want absolutely nothing to do with that.
I am really struggling to process and deal with this news. I have spent the better part of the last four days in tears. My stress and anxiety levels are through the roof. I can’t focus on anything; it’s hard for me to even do something mindless like watch television because all I can do is think about our daughter. We just want her home, and the knowledge that we could well be months away from that is terrifying and devastating. She needs us. We need her. She deserves to be with the family that is quite literally aching to bring her home.
Our hope at this point is that the Embassy will be able to complete their investigation without sending the case on to Nairobi. Anyone inclined to send positive vibes to the universe or pray or do whatever it is that you do in times of struggle, please, by all means, do your thing. We could use all of the support we can get.