To be filed in the good news/bad news category:
Yesterday’s weekly update from our agency showed that three referrals had gone out, including two in our age range! (That’s the good news.)
Unfortunately, neither referral was for us. (Bad news.)
I have to admit that I was completely flabbergasted when I saw this. I mean, I have been positive that we were next up. How could there be referrals, but not one for us?
Our agency does not tell us where we are on the list. So, when our case manager told us she could be calling any day now (starting in September), and then last week shared with me details of what days she’d be taking off for the holidays (and told me that if our referral came in, someone else would be calling us), I took that as a sign that we must be next. They are usually very non-committal and not interested in giving you time estimates. Combine that with the information shared about the length of time families are waiting in our weekly updates (which has pretty much exactly matched our length of wait for months now), and I was just SURE we were next. Why bother telling people you could be calling any day now if there were at least three other families ahead of them? (Since that call in September there have been three other referrals in our age range.)
I spent time last night and this morning responding to emails from friends with the same agency who saw the update and were also just sure it was us. I love that they were all disappointed, too, when they heard it wasn’t! This support system is simply awesome. (Anyone interested in seeing what sort of support you can get through blogging should read through the comments on my last non-Paris post. Thank you, thank you, thank you to all of you.)
Despite my surprise about this, I’m not sad. I had convinced myself that nothing was going to happen before the holidays, so it’s not a shock to me that we didn’t get a referral. No matter what, it’s very encouraging to see some activity in the referrals department. Some families are having an extra happy holiday season, that is for sure. Let’s hope the trend continues and early 2012 is a busy time for referrals.