This blog has been pretty light on content lately. It’s not for lack of material, but rather lack of time to process thoughts and then to put pen to paper (or fingers to keyboard, as it were). I have been beyond swamped with life lately. I also seem to have lost a fair amount of my blogging spirit.
There’s nothing new to report from Ethiopia. Things are the same. The slowdown in processing cases is in effect, although we’re all still waiting to see what that actually means. So far people have been assigned court dates in the same time frame as before, but it remains to be seen whether their necessary letters from MOWYCA will be there. In addition to that slowdown, there has only been one infant referral from our agency in the last six months. That’s sort of the bigger issue in my mind at this point, since I still hold out some hope that the case review process in Ethiopia will improve over the next few months after everyone sees what the slowdown actually looks like in terms of impact on the children.
We talked with our caseworker a few weeks ago, and I asked a lot of questions about our options. We talked about other international programs, and she suggested that Russia and the China Waiting Children program could be good for us in that they have relatively short timeframes now. (But we don’t qualify for China, so I don’t know why she mentioned it.) We talked about adding a domestic process to the mix as well, although that of course would be done with our home study agency.
We aren’t too interested in adding a second adoption process right now, mainly because at the end of the day, even if we start two adoption processes now, we will only end up with one completed adoption. When you are matched with a child through one adoption process, the other process is automatically terminated. I would be much more interested in this if at the end of the day we knew we’d have two children. I am pretty much unable to think about an option that doesn’t include completing our Ethiopian process.
We also talked about what would be involved in changing our requested age range. Right now we are requesting a child under 12 months at the time of referral. When we made this decision, we knew that it would take up to six months from the date of referral to bring him or her home, and therefore, we’d be bringing a child up to the age of 18 months into our family. We are now expecting the time from referral to homecoming to be more like a year, so our request for an infant means we may well be bringing home a two-year-old. To be completely honest, that scares the crap out of us. However, there has been a steady stream of referrals of children in the 12-24-month range, and there’s no question that we would be much closer to a referral if we had an older age range.
I have been really amazed at all of the changes so many of my blog friends have been making – increasing age ranges, adding second processes, and even dropping out of the adoption game altogether. It seems so brave to me, maybe because I’m feeling like we’re pretty much cowards when it comes to what we are willing to open ourselves up to (which seems pretty limited at this point). Maybe someday we’ll feel like we can take a step in a new (or another) direction, but at this point, we’re still considering our options.