I spent last week in Denver with my mom. I planned this trip several weeks ago, knowing that she would need assistance and company as she continues to recover from her back surgeries. I was pleasantly surprised to see how well she is doing; she can’t drive, and she doesn’t have as much stamina as she would like to have, but she is pretty much self-sufficient, and that is fantastic for just a few weeks after such a huge procedure. So, instead of being busy doing things for my mom, I enjoyed a quiet and relaxing week hanging out with her. I logged some impressive sleep, we watched a ridiculous amount of HGTV, we had super-geeky moments of playing Words with Friends on our handheld devices (against each other) and also reading the same book (Cutting for Stone) while sitting next to each other, and it was an enjoyable, low-key week. It was just what I needed after weeks of craziness at work.
This was my third trip to Denver in two months (and the fourth in six months). This isn’t my usual interval for family visits, but obviously my mom’s surgeries changed things up. Now that my mom and both of my brothers (and their significant others) live in Denver, I know that we will be spending a lot of time there. And that’s just fine with me, since I really love it there.
Due to the frequent visits and the fact that my family members are establishing roots, the thought of moving to Denver has been on the forefront of my mind lately. And, I think I actually have Craig on board with the idea, too. So, while I was there, I spent some time doing research about neighborhoods in Denver with significant African-American populations. We do not want to raise our Ethiopian-American child in a white vacuum; we want – and need – to ensure that our child is not the only black person around, and that, in fact, our child has many friends and role models who look like him or her. We also realize that this will be more difficult to accomplish in a city like Denver than it is in a city like Baltimore (which is 65% black). I have also joined a Yahoo group for people in the Denver/Rocky Mountains area who have adopted/are adopting from Ethiopia, so I hope to get some good information by reading along. I was excited to have already seen a post on the forum from the pastor of a local Ethiopian church. I also have a couple of bloggy friends from the area, and I’m sure I’ll be able to pick their brains a bit.
We know that we cannot move for a couple of years. First, we need to get through our adoption, and then the first year of post-placement reports. And second, we really need the housing market to recover some more so we don’t lose everything in selling our house. But, I really do like to think that a move to Denver is in our future.