We are now 13 months into our wait.
I’ve noted before that my approach to The Wait is keeping an eye on the weekly updates from our agency (WHFC). Each Tuesday, we get an email that tells us how many referrals have been given out in the various age ranges. In the little table, next to the number of referrals given out, there is a column that says “Time Families Are Waiting,” which tells, well, how long the families waited to receive their referral. Presently this number is 20 months for the age range we have requested (0-12 months).
So, when the number is 20, that makes our status at 13 months seem not all that terrible. If we wait 20 months, that means we should expect our referral somewhere around the end of June.
However, our agency didn’t have any infant referrals in November. So, even if the next infant referral goes out today, that “Time Waiting” category is going to go up to 21 months.
I know that we expected a long wait, and we still haven’t even reached our initial estimated timeline (the estimated wait was about 16 months when we first started in October 2009). It’s just hard to see the numbers go in the wrong direction as we supposedly get closer to a referral. And we’re not even all that close – what about those who are 20 months into their wait?!
I feel like I’ve been doing really well with The Wait, but I’ve felt a shift in that recently. Maybe it’s the holiday season, and all of the reminders that everyone else has kids and we don’t. Also, several of my bloggy friends have received referrals lately, and while I’m truly happy for them, I would be lying if I said there wasn’t a bit of jealousy underneath my smiles. I’m just tired of waiting.