I’m not quite sure how I let almost a whole week go by without posting about our second home study appointment(s)! This time we each met with our social worker separately; Craig’s appointment was on Tuesday and mine was on Wednesday. We again enjoyed the company of our social worker, and we both felt very comfortable and at ease in our conversations with her.
The discussion focused on childhood/family histories, education, careers, etc. We also got to talk a little bit about one another. We discussed strengths and weaknesses, goals and dreams, and how we think we will be as parents. I giggled a little bit when I thought about Craig as a dad. The thought makes me smile because I think he will be a wonderful father, but I also think he will be a bit clueless at first. (I say that in the nicest possible way!) While I know we will both be in over our heads at first, he has had basically zero experience with babies and young children, so the thought of his first diaper change, for example, really does leave me chuckling a bit. I know that his very unique sense of humor will come through in those moments as he tries to figure out what the heck he’s doing. I also know that his intelligence and dedication, though, will help him succeed. (As will his wife, who will be giving instructions over his shoulder.)
Our third and final appointment will be in a couple of weeks at our home. In talking about that visit, the social worker specifically instructed me not to clean the house before her visit. I actually laughed out loud at that request! I mean, I clean the house if we have friends coming over for dinner, so of course I’m going to clean before our social worker – who is judging whether we are fit to become adoptive parents – comes to our house! My brother and his girlfriend are coming to visit the weekend before her visit (which is on a Monday evening), so I told her that I will most certainly be cleaning the house since we will have houseguests that weekend. Her point was that she will not be judging our home based on its cleanliness, and I can appreciate that. My house will, however, be perfectly clean, because I would be really uncomfortable if it was not.